5 Top Clothing Tips to Build Confidence for Men

Since ‘For Men To Talk’ was formed in December 2019, we felt then and still do that it’s time for a mental health revolution and love yourself again. To do that takes a lot of cogs to be aligned and working in the engine. One major cog is having the confidence in the clothing that we wear.

Lisa Talbot is an award winning personal and fashion stylist who believes that the clothes in our wardrobe should reflect our personality, lifestyle and body shape. She loves to help people with their style and start dressing in a way that unleashes their real personality. 

Here are her latest 5 clothing tips to help build confidence for men.

1. Colour is a powerful tool to help us feel confident, select a colour that makes your face appear light, bright and clear. Try a colour such as pastel pink, powder blue or if you love vibrant tones then a cobalt blue, jade green or cerise pink.

2. A great pair of shoes is always a good item to invest in and they can really complete your outfit. Whether you prefer a white trainer or a brogue, a shoe will enhance your look.

3. A blazer will elevate your look and create a super sleek, well polished appearance. A blazer can be incorporated into a jeans, t-shirt and trainer look or if you prefer try a chino, shirt, loafer and pop in the blazer.

4. Great grooming will always create confidence, think clean shaven, a nice trimmed beard, great hair, all of these will make you feel great. Don’t forget to leave home without a splash of aftershave that suits your personality.

5. The perfect fitting jeans are a must for any man’s wardrobe, whether you prefer a skinny, slim or a wider leg having the right fit will create a lovely shape on the lower body, but please no baggy bums please!

If you feel lost with clothing and what may look best for you, Lisa is available for a free, no obligation discovery call to see how she can help you.


Celebrating One Year as a Community Interest Company (CIC)

My name is Luke Newman and I am the founder and director of ‘For Men To Talk’. On 3 August 2021, it marked the one-year anniversary of myself making it a Community Interest Company (CIC), but not the one-year anniversary of it being founded.

‘For Men To Talk’ is a social enterprise, meaning that as a business it wants to change the world for the better.

A community interest company was introduced by the United Kingdom government in 2005 under the Companies Act 2004. It’s designed for social enterprises that want to use their profits and assets for the public good.

As a ‘CIC’, that’s what I’m trying to do. I’m trying to give a platform for men to talk about how they are feeling and trying to make it normal to do so.

In late December 2019, I set up ‘For Men To Talk’ just as a Facebook group giving men who are suffering with anxiety, depression and grief a chance to talk with other fellow sufferers and improve their well-being. At that point I never thought about making it into a business, let alone a Community Interest Company, I didn’t even know what that was!

It wasn’t until I met an incredible magician, Lee Smith, and Ryan Ferrara, who is a director (and eye-candy) of Snuggeries, who create the most beautiful garden rooms, at a networking meeting. They suggested speaking to Alex Hughes as they believed ‘For Men To Talk’ could become a business. 

Alex is the Founder & CEO of Shifties, based in St.Neots in Cambridgeshire. Shifties is a community for UK micro-business owners to connect, learn and grow together. The group helps support independent business growth with opportunities to network, learn and challenge themselves. 

After contacting Alex, he could see that ‘For Men To Talk’ could become a social enterprise business and make it either a charity or community interest company. But the question was, which one?

The Charity Commission prefers a completely independent, all-volunteer board of trustees and if those trustees aren’t happy with my performance, they can remove me as the director and from ‘For Men To Talk’ completely. Even though I have confidence in my own ability, I couldn’t risk losing something that I had worked so unbelievably hard to build.

So there it was, I formed a CIC and as the founder I can be on the board so that I can maintain control of my creation. Six months later, I added James Dunn, Ian Payne, Justin Leigh and later Steve Whitney as Non-Executive Directors and placed them on the ‘Board of Directors’. 

This is to support myself and fulfil our commitment to be a benefit to the community, with a particular focus on supporting men’s mental health. Adding these gentlemen to the board will help fulfil that objective.

As we now start the second year as a Community Interest Company, my pledge is to continue hosting physical and virtual meetings to allow men to talk about how they are feeling and also highlighting the need for children to be able to be talk openly. This will be through schools and also through ‘The Mental Health Moles’ book which I have designed and written, which details many mental health illnesses, which could help them recognise their symptoms.

To continue and obtain my pledge, the next stage will be looking and applying for grants, donations and other means of funding. 

Our New Non-Executive Director

Today Luke Newman, the founder of ‘For Men To Talk’, is honoured to announce that he has included a new Non-Executive Director who will be placed on the ‘Board of Directors’.

Luke has asked Steve Whitney, the Managing Director of Cromwell Stoves Ltd, Wood Burning and Multi-Fuel Stove Specialists, to help the company in an advisory capacity. Which he has excitedly accepted.

“As a Community Interest Company, ‘For Men To Talk’ has a commitment to be a benefit to the community, with a particular focus on supporting men’s mental health”, said Luke. “To welcome Steve to join James, Ian and Justin on the board will help fulfil that objective.”

“From personal heartache, Steve is passionate about helping men get together and talk to each other about their lives and what help they might need, he will a valuable member of the ‘For Men To Talk’ team,” Luke concluded.

The other Non-Executive Directors are:
James Dunn
who is an advocate of talking and listening about the topic of men’s mental health and has been an attendee of the ‘For Men To Talk’ group meetings since they were founded.

Ian Payne, recognises the importance of communication and counselling from his own mental health experiences, as well as the experience of others. He is a strong advocate of looking after ourselves both physically and mentally.

Justin Leigh is a highly experienced Business Leader & Executive Coach with over twenty-five years’ experience in sales and leadership. Justin has founded the Cambridgeshire branch of a charitable group ‘Walk & Talk 4 Men’. Just is a passionate supporter of men’s mental health and is proud to help men find the help they need, when they need it.

‘For Men To Talk’ is back at Jones’ Cafe

After 15 months since the last physical meeting, a men’s mental health group is returning to Jones’ Cafe in Biggleswade on Tuesday 3 August 2021, from 6pm to 8pm.

Husband and father, Luke Newman, from Potton, Bedfordshire formed ‘For Men To Talk’ in December 2019, to get men talking about their anxiety, depression and grief. 

The 40-year-old has suffered for a number of years with grief and anxiety since losing his mother and sister both to cancer. 

Already been through counselling and therapy, Luke recognised that there wasn’t any groups for men just simply to talk.  

After setting up a Facebook page on Boxing Day in 2019, the first ‘For Men To Talk’ group meetings were held at ‘Jones’ Café’ in Biggleswade in February and March 2020, attracting over 20 to each event, where they talked about anything from football, television, movies, to feelings. 

The physical groups were forced to stop at the end of March 2020 due to the coronavirus pandemic and further restrictions, but continued every Wednesday with meetings virtually via Zoom, the virtual conference website, and they will still continue.

“The meetings are very informal”, said Luke. “There are no experts on hand. But leaflets and contact numbers for professional groups, such as the Samaritans, MIND and CALM are available in an Information Corner for those men who recognise that they may need further help.” 

“I have been busy since the last physical meeting. Our virtual meetings are going from strength and ‘For Men To Talk’ is now a Community Interest Company. This means its a limited company, which is a benefit to the community. I have also designed and written ‘The Mental Health Moles’ book showing fifty-two storyboards with advice about mental health topics.” 

Mr Newman said that he first started suffering from depression after his mother Jen Newman died aged 54 in 2005 and continued after his sister Heidi Melrose died aged 44 in 2015.  

“I have struggled. But I feel very fortunate that I have always been able to open up and talk to not only family and friends, but strangers in the street. I know that people, especially men struggle with that. We need to be more open about our mental health.” 

The group aims to meet every first Tuesday of the month in the cafe.  

‘For Men To Talk’ can be found on their website www.formentotalk.co.uk and social media channels. Luke is also available for any questions on 07709 446480.