Absolutely delighted to announce that the East Anglia Scale Trail will be holding a family event at Tixover Quarry in Stamford on Sunday 26 June 2022 and will be kindly donating all profits to ‘For Men To Talk’.
A family event to raise money & awareness of men’s mental health in association with:
The East Anglia Scale Trail will be held at Tixover Quarry which is a 70-acre disused sandstone quarry. It’s set in the lovely rolling countryside of the Northants and Leicestershire border close to Stamford, Corby, Leicester and Peterborough with the A1 only 2 miles away.
The Tixover site is widely renowned to be one of the UK’s leading off-road sites, with impressive terrain such as:
Steep hills and descents
Technical training sections
Mud and water
Side slopes a
There will be gated trails through the wooded areas, scale trails around the small pond and an area set out for some faster RC’s.
The King of Mallets will be making an appearance.
G-Speed sponsored competition for classes 1, 2 & 3. With prizes from G-Speed, GCRC, Tomley RC.
Today marks the start of Mental Health Awareness Week and although we believe that everyone should be aware of theirs and other peoples mental health all year round, we thought it would be a good idea to reintroduce ‘For Men To Talk’ and what we bring to men locally.
The Mental Health Foundation campaign this year focuses on loneliness, with the hashtag #IveBeenThere. It will hopefully give a chance for us all to share our experiences and feel a little less alone with our thoughts.
About For Men To Talk
‘For Men To Talk’ is a Community Interest Company, a non-charitable limited company, which means that we provide a benefit to the community and report back on this every year to Companies House.
About the Founder
Luke Newman lives in Potton, Bedfordshire. He has personally suffered for a number of years with grief and anxiety since losing his mother, aged 54, and sister, 44, both to cancer. However, he feels fortunate that he could admit my illness, as sadly a lot of men are not able to do so without the support that a group like ‘For Men To Talk’ provides.
Having already been through counselling and therapy, Luke recognised that there weren’t any groups for men to simply talk. This was a major driver in him founding the ‘For Men To Talk in December 2019, giving men who are suffering with anxiety, depression and grief the opportunity to talk with other fellow sufferers about their situation, provide support for each other and improve their well-being.
They started with just one group, face-to-face and now have an average total of 15 men attending per meeting, which of course went virtual during the pandemic.
As things are returning to normal, ‘For Men To Talk’ meetings remain virtually every Wednesday as well as back to physical meetings.
• 1 x Virtual Group Meeting per week
• 2 x Physical Group Meetings per month at The Crown Hotel (Wetherspoon) in Biggleswade, Bedfordshire
• 1 x Physical Group Meeting per month at St Neots Golf Club in Cambridgeshire
• 1 x Physical Group Meeting per month at The Cambridge Belfry in Cambourne, Cambridgeshire
• 1 x Group ‘For Men To Talk… and Walk’ per month. Starting at Jones’ Cafe in Biggleswade, Bedfordshire
‘For Men To Talk’ raises awareness of mental health by:
• Encouraging men to undertake the four pillars of wellbeing, which are sleep, exercise, stress management and nutrition, to improve mental health.
• Posting daily supportive social media quotes accompanied by a photo. This is designed to motivate and maintain positive mental health.
• Providing safe, supportive and confidential environments where men can talk freely about their mental health illness.
• Providing information recognising the symptoms of male cancers.
• Keep the ‘For Men To Talk’ website updated, with continual updates. This includes blogs discussing various issues of mental health for men.
The Mental Health Moles Book
Luke Newman has designed, written and self-published a book titled ‘The Mental Health Moles’, which is suitable for men, women, boys and girls of all ages. He wrote this book to raise awareness of mental health for men, about ‘For Men To Talk’ and to raise much needed revenue for our early days of the CIC. He undertook a very successful crowdfunding campaign to raise funds for the first print of the book, and they are now sold on Amazon Kindle and print, via market stalls and craft fayres. He has also been approached to talk about the book at local schools. All profits go to ‘For Men To Talk’.
Recently, ‘For Men To Talk’ has received financial funding from The Heads-Up community grant fund which is part of BLMK ICS NHS England Suicide Prevention Funding. See https://bbc.in/3Np6Rjt for further information
For further information on all of the above, please contact ‘For Men To Talk’ on email@example.com or via 07709 446480.
‘For Men To Talk’ founder Luke Newman returns for his 7th trip to Nakuru in Kenya volunteering with Derby County Community Trust & African Adventures in May 2022.
With living in a deprived environment, with no clean water and electricity and little food and water, it must be a huge burden on mental health.
Valentine, founder and headteacher at West End Destiny Academy is asking for books. Luke would like to take 50 copies of his book ‘The Mental Health Moles‘ to try and comfort the young children of ‘West End Academy’. That’s just £3 per book!
The book sees the moles have 52 discussions, filled with advice about mental health topics, such as anxiety, depression, grief, social media, stress, sleep and many more. They are accompanied with brightly coloured and boldly drawn illustrations.
Across the world, one man dies by suicide every minute of every day, with males accounting for 75% of all suicides. In relation to cancer, unchecked, prostate cancer rates will double over the next 15 years and globally, from the current rate of 12,000 deaths every year right now. It is vital that men understand their physical health, as well as their mental health.
With that in mind, on Wednesday 27 April, ‘For Men To Talk’ welcomed Allan Roper and Robin Giles from Prostate Cancer UK to their virtual meeting.
Prostate cancer occurs in the prostate gland, the gland that produces the fluid that makes up semen. Tumours are often slow-growing and highly treatable. More than 50,000 men are diagnosed with prostate cancer every year.
The risk of developing prostate cancer increases with age, especially over 50 years old. 1 in 8 white men and 1 in 4 black men will have prostate cancer in their lifetime.
For those who have a family history (a brother or father with prostate cancer), they are 2.5 times more likely to get it. For men whose mother or sister have had breast cancer, chances increase too.
A PSA test is a blood test to help detect prostate cancer. The test, which can be done at a GP surgery, measures the level of prostate-specific antigen (PSA) in your blood. PSA is a protein made only by the prostate gland. Some of it leaks into your blood, but how much depends on your age and the health of your prostate.
You can download a PDF file of the symptoms poster of prostate cancer here
Our founder, Luke Newman’s Father, Steve, had testicular cancer at the age of 33 and Luke was just 4.
Typical symptoms are a painless swelling or lump in one of the testicles or any change in shape or texture of the testicles.
The swelling or lump can be about the size of a pea or slightly larger. Most lumps or swellings in the scrotum are not in the testicle and are not a sign of cancer, but they should never be ignored.
Luke said: “It was on a Christmas Eve, I must have been 19 and having a bath, when I found a small lump. The natural first reaction is panic, but I know I had to get it checked out. I know, even though still rare, that I am four times more likely to develop it than someone with no family history of the condition, because of Dad’s previous diagnosis.”
“I immediately made an appointment with my general practitioner (GP), who then organised for me to visit the radiography department at my local hospital. Three weeks later, the radiographer examined my lump and cancer was ruled out. The procedure was completely pain free, however the lubricating gel that was placed on my scrotum was a bit cold though!”
Other symptoms of testicular cancer includes an increase in the firmness of a testicle, a difference in appearance between one testicle and the other, a dull ache or sharp pain in your testicles or scrotum, which may come and go and a feeling of heaviness in your scrotum.
There are around 2,300 new testicular cancer cases in the UK every year. It’s the most commonly diagnosed cancer in young men in the UK. You can download a PDF file of the symptoms poster here.
The best time to check yourself is after a warm shower or bath as your skin is most relaxed and should be checked at least once a month for lumps or swellings. Men get checking!
The great news is that both cancers have high cure rates and can be successfully treated, as long as the cancer is detected early and has not spread to other parts of the body. This emphasises the importance for men to visit their General Practitioner (GP). Not just for recognising the symptoms of these cancers, but for anything that just doesn’t feel right.
By ‘For Men To Talk’ founder and director, Luke Newman
Sue Ryder St John’s Hospice is in Moggerhanger in Bedfordshire. They provide expert care for life-limiting conditions, for those who need it. They also support their family and friends. They help with everything from pain and symptom management to emotional and practical help.
It’s a place that I know very well. I’ve had friends and family use the facilities that they offer. My Nan passed away there after a very short stay and my sister stayed their for a few days during her cancer treatment. But it was my Mum who spent the longest time at St John’s, cared by the most incredible nurses and volunteers, as she lost her battle with ovarian cancer.
Today marks nine years since I ran the London Marathon in aid of Ovacome, an Ovarian Cancer Support Charity and I was able to raise £6000 thanks to some amazing donations. I know the importance of fundraising for charities and that St John’s Hospice needs to raise over £1 million each year to meet the unfunded day-to-day running costs. An incredible amount of money.
I was able to receive some bereavement support from St John’s Hospice when I lost my Nan, a few years after Mum passed. I was very close to my Nan and visited her frequently, she’d seen many losses on her life, including her daughter and son and I didn’t want her to be lonely. A volunteer from the hospice was able to listen to how I was feeling over a number of sessions and was a huge help in my grief recovery.
It’s been a few years since then and with becoming a husband, father, fundraising for my humanitarian trips and launching ‘For Men To Talk’, I haven’t visited the hospice for a long time.
It was a chance encounter at a networking meeting that I met Joanne Landucci, Senior Community Fundraiser at St John’s Hospice and I was able to explain to her what the Hospice meant to me and that I would be forever grateful for the care that they have provided to my family, friends and for me personally.
From that gratitude, ‘For Men To Talk’ have donated five copies of ‘The Mental Health Moles’ books to the bereavement team. As well as grief, the book has 52 discussions, filled with advice about mental health topics, such as anxiety, depression, social media, stress, sleep and many more. I’m hopeful that the team will give a book to those who need a copy, which will help them, just like the team helped me all those years ago.
It’s hard to believe that the Launch Challenge that instigated ‘The Mental Health Moles’ Book started one year ago today! Read the blog at https://bit.ly/FMTTB22
In April 2021, I worked with Shifties, who help to enable business owners to connect, learn, and grow with their businesses together to take an idea and publish a book.
Six months previously to the start of the ‘Launch Challenge’, I used my love of the Mr. Men books and designed two cartoon moles, one with a bowler hat and one slightly smaller. I accompanied the moles and wrote a 4 page storyboard where the moles talked about different mental health illnesses and posted them on social media channels every Monday. All of a sudden I had around 20 different storyboards and I realised that this was my product!
Over the coming weeks, I researched, wrote and designed further stories, filled with topics, such as anxiety, depression, grief, social media, stress, sleep and many more, combining to make a total of 52 storyboards.
Once the designs were completed and text proof read and approved, I was able to get one hundred copies printed after a successful crowdfunding appeal. I also placed a digital version available on Amazon Kindle.
I didn’t really know who would the book appeal to. But I loved the idea of any generation, both male or female, boy or girl to understand there are lots of different kind of mental health illnesses and recognise in themselves if they are feeling like any of them.
Here are are just a few reviews that I have received after reading ‘The Mental Health Moles’ Book:
“I like The Mental Health Moles book because it is funny, colourful and cute. My favourite stories are about Christmas and Children. I learnt that it’s important for adults to talk to children about mental health because they might not understand what they are going through and that we need to talk about our problems when we feel bad like the story about Batmole! I took the book to school and read it to my teacher and classmates and they loved it too.”
“Simple but very effective. There are not many books out there that cover an age spectrum of 5 to 105 and is just as poignant for Male and Female. Every home should have one.”
“I have my signed copy on my coffee table and found my 6 year old Granddaughter reading it out loud today. Love that it is perfect for every age.”
“What is so clever, this is complicated stuff. This book should be huge. In four panels you’ve broken down mental health illnesses which is complicated, which others take chapters to discuss. It’s an artform.”
“You’ve taken subjects that so many people are scared of and you’ve hit the nail on the head, in a simple way.”
“I gave each of my kids (aged 7 and 9) a copy of the mental moles book and they’re really interacting with it. I’m already seeing that it’s opening up the conversations at home regarding mental health.”
“The mental health moles books is helping to normalise mental health more and helping to learn how to interact with others who have any kind of issues.”
“People have shelves of books they don’t read, but I reckon everyone who has this book reads it regularly because it’s so easy to read and so digestible.”
I am extremely proud of what I have achieved within the book over this last year. I am flattered by the amazing feedback that I have received. The next step will be to continue selling it via the ‘For Men To Talk’ meetings, social media, website, market stalls and craft fayres. But after being approached, I would really like the opportunity to talk about the book at local schools to highlight the need for boys and girls to talk about their mental health at early age.
‘The Mental Health Moles’ is available right now via:
One of the most important things of being fit, is that it relieves stress and eliminates depression. It’s something that is discussed frequently in our ‘For Men To Talk’ meetings, both virtually and physically.
With that in mind, I’ve been looking for an opportunity for the men in our group to work towards something. I can see the enjoyment and benefits of the attendees at our monthly ‘For Men To Talk… and Walk’ meetings, but I needed something for them to exercise regularly, up to a big event.
In 2013, I ran the London Marathon in aid of Ovacome, an Ovarian Cancer Support Charity. I lost my beautiful Mum who we lost nearly 17 years ago. I was able to raise £6000 thanks to some very kind donations. Even though it was tough and it hurt (a lot), I loved every single second of it, for my body and my mental health, and I would have certainly carried on running but for a knee injury.
In January 2008, seven years early, I had an operation on that same knee. Throughout my football career, playing a lot on Saturdays and Sundays for 15-20 years, I caused myself to have an inward facing patella (kneecap), which is referred to as a ‘winking patella’. It gave me knee pain, stiffness, progressive aching and grating pain and on some occasions, my knee didn’t lock or catch.
During the Covid-19 pandemic, the London Marathon has moved to October and also introduced a virtual event for those who don’t get a place through the ballot or charity place. This means that there is an opportunity to complete the 26 miles and 385 yards (42.195 kilometres) distance from home. You can do it with friends or on your own, in stages or all at once, just as long as the distance is completed at any time from 00:00 to 23:59:59 on Sunday 2 October 2022, the same day as the mass event in London.
That’s 24 hours, we could walk that! After putting the idea to the attendees of ‘For Men To Talk’, some have signed up to do it! A 12-week plan, leading to the big walk! It’s the incentive many of us need to get fit and improve our mental health. It will improve self-perception and self-esteem, mood and sleep quality, and it reduce stress, anxiety and fatigue.
By ‘For Men To Talk’ founder and director, Luke Newman
As I write this, I’ve just returned home. Today, I took For Men To Talk & The Mental Health Moles to Broom in Bedfordshire, just outside Biggleswade. I attended Jordans Mill – Monthly Craft & Food Fayre.
For the odd time that it was quiet, it gave me time to think. On 22 March, we announced that ‘For Men To Talk’ had received financial funding from The Heads-Up community grant fund which is part of BLMK ICS NHS England Suicide Prevention Funding. From the BBC News article that was written, it has lead to a number of Facebook comments, every single one of them positive… except one.
The comment read “Look I think this group is great but getting NHS funding is too much. No wonder the NHS struggles for funds”. It hurt, it really did. Instead of taking all the other extremely nice, supportive and congratulatory messages and ignoring this one, I couldn’t. I kept thinking and re-thinking about it, over and over again.
I’ve worked extremely hard in building ‘For Men To Talk’ from an idea in December 2019, to the, hopeful, 101 meetings planned in 2022. All I’ve wanted to do is to give a platform for men to feel safe and comfortable to talk about how they are feeling. To have a feeling that they aren’t alone and scared. From the feedback I’ve received from the men who have attended any of the meetings, they don’t feel alone anymore and they do feel that they can be open to talk about their mental health illnesses. My objective is being fulfilled.
But this one comment, has left me confused. Why would this person have a negative view in ‘For Men To Talk’ receiving funding from the NHS? But, then a further comment answered my question. The family have had a bad experience with the NHS and felt that funding was lacking for what they needed. Were they angry with me or the system?
Like many things, I’m going to have to train my brain to move on. Think or see positivity to replace my negative thoughts. Instead of getting down about it, I need to re-read the amazing comments that I have seen and received from the many, many others. I need to become happy with them and use them as optimistic thoughts to replace my pessimistic ones. Practicing this over time, I’m hopeful that my mind will begin to focus on the good rather than this one bad.
I will re-read comments like
“Considering suicide is the single biggest killer in men under 45. I would say it is money well spent.”
“Spending £4198 will save the NHS money, less people needing to see their GP and less needing to access hospital services.”
“This is such incredible work Luke, this will absolutely be capturing people before their mental health escalates to crisis. There just are not enough MH beds or staff to manage the current demand, the money you have been awarded is a drop in the ocean compared to what is needed to manage just one person in crisis and/or requiring a bed. This kind of work is exactly what is needed, proactive, supportive, collaborative.”
From a distance, the outside view is that I just host the physical, virtual and walking meetings. That’s around 20 hours a month. But in reality, I do so much more than that.
Group Meeting Posters – For every single meeting I design a specific, individual poster. I also modify it to suit Instagram.
Social Media Posts – I design three positive posts per week to inspire men.
Social Media Scheduling – Plan and schedule all social media posts to post on specific days and times. I also share many of those posts to numerous Facebook Groups.
Newsletter – Design and post a weekly newsletter that is distributed to those who have signed up to receive it.
WhatsApp – Monitor the ‘For Men To Talk’ WhatsApp group. Look for signposts for men who need help.
Website – Continue monitoring and update the ‘For Men To Talk’ website
Blogs – I try and write a blog post every two weeks. Blogs with updated information about ‘For Men To Talk’ and mental health in general.
Promotion – I’m always looking to promote the group, writing relevant press releases, attend networking meetings, radio interviews, podcasts etc. This also means having a stall at craft fairs and give presentations at organisations such as ‘Rotary Clubs’ and ‘Chamber of Commerces’
The Mental Health Moles – I designed this book to raise funds for ‘For Men To Talk’, with that a lot of the above points go with it. The moles have their own social media channels where I continually promote the book and design three positive posts per week to inspire men.
I’m probably forgetting other aspects too!
I’m not trying to justify to you, the reader, on what I do. But this is what it takes to fulfil my objectives, to give men a safe and comfortable environment to be able to talk about how they are feeling. I dread to think about how many hours I put in every month, as well as doing my normal full-time job. Sometimes that means sacrificing time with family, especially my wife and children, and friends.
The Heads-Up community grant fund covers for some marketing and hosting the meetings in 2022. It doesn’t cover all the extra work it takes. But I am extremely grateful and proud for the NHS believing in me and ‘For Men To Talk’.
My profit is seeing the improvement in the mental health of the men who attend any of the group meetings. For all the extra work that I personally do, it’s worth extra single second, when I see just one negative comment, I must remember that.
For Men To Talk founder Luke Newman was invited to talk to Babs Michel on BBC Three Counties Radio on 25 March 2022 to talk about the group and receiving financial funding from The Heads-Up community grant fund which is part of BLMK ICS NHS England Suicide Prevention Funding. Read the story at https://bit.ly/FMTTB40 and listen to the interview below: